You are the Leader of Your Life! Isn’t that exciting news?! Far too often, we tend to give over our life choices and power to everyone but ourselves. As the saying goes, no one on their death bed says they wish they had worked more. But with so many to-do lists to stay alive, meet basic needs, meet societal expectations, it’s easy to lose sight of who we are and what we want or need to feel our best selves.
You do You
This has become a popular phrase, hasn’t it? It’s interesting the different contexts and meanings it can have. But here, in this blog post, the meaning is that you get to choose who you want to be. You have the power over your own life. You get to decide. Part of deciding is what type of outlook you have.
Here is a quick 30-second assignment. Get a piece of paper and a pen. Go ahead, I’m waiting…. 1. Write down the 5 things, people, areas of life, etc that you are most grateful for. 2. Write down the 5 things, people areas of life, etc that bring you the most stress or worry. Now, be honest, do you see anything on both lists? I know I do. We get to decide in which frame we are going to focus on. Where attention goes, the feeling grows :).
You do you. What brings you joy? What makes you smile? What makes your heart feel full? What makes you feel as though you’ve positively impacted the world? These are the things to grow, focus on, dream and plan about. What do you think got me to finally start this blog? 😉
A Goal Without a Plan is Just a Wish
Leading our lives requires us to have goals and make plans. As you discover and explore where your joy lies, consider what your goals are around that goal. Dream big! What is your goal? What excites you? What do you want to accomplish? Maybe it’s your goal to organize and decorate your home office. Maybe it’s your goal to be healthy and fit. Maybe it’s your goal to start a blog. Maybe you have several goals. You get to lead your life towards the joy that awaits you.
Write down your goal or goals. There is so much power in this action. Research says writing things down really connects you to the goal, especially if you actually write it, not type it. Once you have written down the goal, working backward helps you to think through the steps you can take towards reaching it. The experts call this reverse engineering. It takes something that is overwhelming and breaks it into smaller chunks by starting at the endpoint.
Ignore Your Negative Self-Talk
Don’t limit yourself. I don’t want to hear you say, “I’m just a …” or “I can’t…”. Come on, friend, have faith in yourself. I believe in you! You can achieve what you want to and what you strive towards. Sure, there may be setbacks at times, but you can work through and past that. Sometimes a setback helps us to learn even more towards our goals or take us in a slightly different direction.
As soon as you hear yourself using negative self-talk, shut that down. Refuse to feed into it. Reframe that talk into positivity and love for yourself and the journey you are on. Repeat after me: I can do this. I deserve to achieve my goals. I have a plan to achieve this goal which I will take action on each day. I will not beat myself up for getting off track by 1 decision.
How are you leading your life today? What is a quote or phrase you plan to use to refocus and reinvigorate yourself when something interrupts your plan?